In
his memoir A Tale of Love and Darkness,
Amos Oz revisits an underlying issue including in his novel My Michael: gender roles and their
emotional and mental consequences. The issue is most explicitly addressed by
Amos’ Aunt Sonia, his mother’s younger sister. She claims that girls of her
time were “brainwashed” into accepting their roles as women (180). And these
roles were strongest for mothers: Sonia was “always taught that women are
entitled to an education and a place outside the home--but only until the
children are born” (178). While all kinds of “notions of freedom” were being
discussed while Sonia, Fania, and Haya were adolescents, Sonia argues that no
freedom was brought “between him and her” (181). Instead, women continued to live
in a silent torture, “walking in the dark in a cellar full of scorpions with no
shoes on” (180).
The
theme of gender roles takes on great significance in A Tale of Love and Darkness as it is offered as a contributing
factor to Amos’ mother’s suicide. Though readers may not hear directly from
Fania, her own frustration with stereotypical gender roles is evidenced in a
story recounted by Sonia. She remembers a painting hanging in her family’s
dining room of a young girl whose underskirts were showing; it “seemed modest
but it wasn’t really” (185). One day, Fania exploded about the painting, saying
that the image naively “ignore[d] suffering” (186). The painting misrepresented
and minimized the hard work and plight of the young peasant woman. Sonia draws
a more direct correlation between Fania’s suicide and the overbearing
oppression of gender roles when she tearfully laments: “Every time I remember
that prettified picture, every time I see a picture with three underskirts and
a feathery sky, I see scorpions ravaging my sister and I start to cry” (186). The
image Sonia uses to embody women’s suffering in general is applied to her
deceased sister.
While there have been “freedoms”
brought to the issues “between him and her,” stereotypes about gender and gender
roles continue to serve as stifling forces (181). Even in the relatively
egalitarian and secularized setting of the United States in the twenty-first century,
one can feel the societal and cultural pressures to behave in certain ways and
make certain decisions based on gender. The lamentations of Aunt Sonia in A Tale of Love and Darkness both voice
the loss felt by oppressed women and remind me of the opportune advances that
have been made from which I benefit today.
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